Management of ILL WILL Dehumanization Sin and Reciprocity when there is no Justice

Human beings

WANT, NEED and DESIRE

to be treated fairly

this is the golden rule of reciprocity and justice

this is not only human but found all over Nature and in many organism populations in the universe.

 

 

Called “Reciprocal Altruism

even vampire bats are shown to exhibit it:

Vampire bats[edit]

Vampire bats also display reciprocal altruism, as described by Wilkinson.[18][19] The bats feed each other by regurgitating blood. Since bats only feed on blood and will die after just 70 hours of not eating, this food sharing is a great benefit to the receiver and a great cost to the giver.[20] To qualify for reciprocal altruism, the benefit to the receiver would have to be larger than the cost to the donor. This seems to hold as these bats usually die if they do not find a blood meal two nights in a row. Also, the requirement that individuals who have behaved altruistically in the past are helped by others in the future is confirmed by the data.[18] However, the consistency of the reciprocal behaviour, namely that a previously non-altruistic bat is refused help when it requires it, has not been demonstrated. Therefore, the bats do not seem to qualify yet as an unequivocal example of reciprocal altruism.   (from wikipedia)

These EMOTIONAL REACTIONS of STRONG DISLIKE

and STRONG LIKE

<note, the problem is, this is also PASSION which is a wonderful human quality, and without such emotional natures and reactions, we find we are PASSIONLESS bummer>

inform most of your decisions and are emotional gut, instinctual reactions.

these inform your choices, like I will be friends with them because I LIKE them, or

I can not be your friend any more because now I do not LIKE you because you were not reciprocal towards me, you are taking too much and I feel like I gave you a lot and did not get back what I gave.

this is reciprocity

and these are PREFERENCES and PREFERENTIAL treatment based on emotional response

There is a fable that when the badger had been stung all over by bees, a bear consoled him by a rhapsodic account of how he himself had just breakfasted on their honey. The badger replied peevishly, “The stings are in my flesh, and the sweetness is on your muzzle.” The bear, it is said, was surprised at the badger’s want of altruism. [“George Eliot,” “Theophrastus Such,” 1879]

When we do not get treated in this fashion it creates

ILL WILL

Also known as “SIN” or “THE EVIL EYE” or also “HUBRIS”

 

grudge (n.)

“ill will excited by some special cause,” late 15c., from grudge (v.).

mid-15c., “to murmur, complain,” variant of grutch. Meaning “to begrudge, envy, wish to deprive of” is c. 1500. Related: Grudged; grudges; grudging; grudgingly.
c. 1200, grucchen, “to murmur, complain, find fault with, be angry,” from Old French grouchier, grocier “to murmur, to grumble,” of unknown origin, perhaps from Germanic, probably ultimately imitative. Meaning “to begrudge” is c. 1400. Compare gruccild (early 13c.) “woman who complains,” from grutch + suffix of unknown origin. Related: Grutched; grutching. As a noun from c. 1400.
also the origin of Groutch
“ill-tempered person,” 1896, earlier “state of irritable glumness” (1890, in expressions such as to have a grouch on), U.S. college student slang, of uncertain origin, possibly from grutching “complaint, grumbling” (see grutch).

The Grouch, on the other Hand, gave a correct Imitation of a Bear with a Sore Toe. His Conversation was largely made up of Grunts. He carried a Facial Expression that frightened little Children in Street Cars and took all the Starch out of sentimental Young Ladies. He seemed perpetually to carry the Hoof-Marks of a horrible Nightmare. [George Ade, “People You Know,” 1902]

The verb is 1916, from the noun. Related: Grouched; grouching. Grouch bag “purse for carrying money secretly” (1908), probably so called for keeping the cash hidden from compatriots; it is the source of the nickname of U.S. comedian Julius “Groucho” Marx (1890-1977), who supposedly carried his money to poker games in one.

This can create many problems for everyone

 

including illness and sickness, (BECAUSE WOE IS ME )

especially of the Grudge bearer, or the one who feels the contempt (righteous or not) the strongest

this can be because they are HIDDEN in this GRUDGE PURSE

https://www.washingtonpost.com/entertainment/books/dan-chaons-ill-will-is-the-scariest-novel-of-the-year/2017/03/06/1ba3cc8c-fe8d-11e6-8f41-ea6ed597e4ca_story.html?noredirect=on&utm_term=.88788c6f992c

 

“Most people seemed to believe that they were experts of their own life story,” he writes. “They had a set of memories that they strung like beads, and this necklace told a sensible tale.” But, he suggests that “most of these stories would fall apart under strict examination — that, in fact, we were only peeping through a keyhole of our lives, and the majority of the truth, the reality of what happened to us, was hidden.”

 

Synonym Discussion of ill will

malice, malevolence, ill will, spite, malignity, spleen, grudge mean the desire to see another experience pain, injury, or distress. malice implies a deep-seated often unexplainable desire to see another suffer.

    • felt no malice toward their former enemies

malevolence suggests a bitter persistent hatred that is likely to be expressed in malicious conduct.

    • a look of dark malevolence

ill will implies a feeling of antipathy of limited duration.

    • ill willprovoked by a careless remark

spite implies petty feelings of envy and resentment that are often expressed in small harassments.

    • petty insults inspired by spite

malignity implies deep passion and relentlessness.

    • a life consumed by motiveless malignity

spleensuggests the wrathful release of latent spite or persistent malice.

    • venting his spleenagainst politicians

grudge implies a harbored feeling of resentment or ill will that seeks satisfaction.

    • never one to harbor a grudge

Since often this ILL WILL

is JUSTIFIED by a terrible thing or trauma,

it creates a BURDEN OF CONTEMPT

to be carried by the victim, or holder of the cheat, we carry the burden of the beast

This must be minded and healed  AND SHARED in order that it not consume everyone and everything into dehumanizing, demonizing cycles of samsara,

but it proves very difficult to reconcile, and certainly we are a far way off from it yet.

If you find your CONTEMPT is too large to reconcile, consider growing it SO LARGE it covers over everything, this too can be a strategy for managing it called CONTEMPTUS MUNDI where the hatred is taken on as a spiritual practice that accepts that the world and worldly things contain darkness hate and horror.

Gaining and researching strategies for healing your contempt must be investigated if you find you are consumed by it, in order that the poison not toxify you body mind and soul.

 

To tame the wolf of hate, it’s important to get a handle on “ill will” – irritated, resentful, and angry feelings and intentions toward others. While it may seem justified in the moment, ill will harms you probably more than it harms others. In another metaphor, having ill will toward others is like throwing hot coals with bare hands: both people get burned.

Avoiding ill will does not mean passivity, allowing yourself or others to be exploited, staying silent in the face of injustice, etc.

There is plenty of room for speaking truth to power and effective action without succumbing to ill will. Think of Gandhi, Martin Luther King, or the Dalai Lama as examples. In fact, with a clear mind and a peaceful heart, your actions are likely to be more effective.

Ill will creates negative, vicious cycles. But that means that good will can create positive cycles. Plus good will cultivates wholesome qualities in you.”

 

Buddhism present strategies and acknowledgements of these as well as the obstacles such emotional preferences cause in our lives,

 

http://www.kamalashila.co.uk/styled-45/page22/page22.html

2. ill will

Ill will (vyapada) is similar to sense desire in that the object of the hindrance is its dominant feature; this is not the case with the other three hindrances.  In both sense desire and ill will we are strongly attached to an object which we are reluctant to let go.  With sense desire we are trapped through our craving; in the case of ill will we are trapped through our aversion to it – yet the fascination of the object, the power of its spell over us, is no less strong.

 

The I Ching Recommends meeting people HALF WAY or in the middle, which is a way of the golden rule, or middle path and even if you CANT give them total emancipation from their evil, you could give them part and in that way not sacrifice your own values nor take everything for yourself

Ultimately each individual will have to find what works best for themselves and what they want to feed their hate wolf, and what they want to starve it from,

but this is a deeply internal and natural phenomenon that each human being must and should wrestle with in order to come into harmony and equilibrium with their resting state, especially when experiencing severe disturbance of any kind.

 

 

Shamanic and indigenous practices to deal with these kinds of disturbances are many and varied, for a system you can implement that includes these strategies please see here and investigate THE WAY OF HEAVEN 

 

Spleen

when low skies weightier than a coffin-lid
cast on the moaning soul their weary blight,
and from the whole horizon’s murky grid
its grey light drips more dismal than the night;

when earth’s a dungeon damp whose chill appals,
in which — a fluttering bat — my Hope, alone
buffets with timid wing the mouldering walls
and beats her head against the dome of stone;

when close as prison-bars, from overhead,
the clouds let fall the curtain of the rains,
and voiceless hordes of spiders come, to spread
their infamous cobwebs through our darkened brains,

explosively the bells begin to ring,
hurling their frightful clangour toward the sky,
as homeless spirits lost and wandering
might raise their indefatigable cry;

and ancient hearses through my soul advance
muffled and slow; my Hope, now pitiful,
weeps her defeat, and conquering Anguish plants
his great black banner on my cowering skull.

— Charles Baudelaire, Flowers of Evil (New York: Ives Washburn, 1931)

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Your life is a Play. The Control Dramas of the Archetypes are Eating you alive

If you begin to raise your awareness up,

(out of your own ass)

either through conscious technique engagement

or through forced crisis,

You begin to become aware

of other people’s behavior

especially towards you.

In fact mostly towards you, no offense.

You will see what people do,

and become very confused by their actions,

you will think “why did they do that?”

and you will become very depressed, angry or sad or generally emotional as your mind searches for a rational explanation.

You will hate the person and judge the person and BLOCK them from your life.

You will label them “Negative” and “Toxic” or even a “Narcissist”

But what you won’t understand is

everyone is inhabited by Characters that are running the show.

You too, boo hoo.

The reason a person acts a certain way towards you has mostly to do

with their character (also Archetype, Orisha, and Daimon) and behavior habits they have formed.  Like a statue or Idol Hewn from Stone

These are called “Control Dramas”

and once you put your mind on them,

you realize truly that all the world’s a stage.

You can see these played out from individual experiences (you put the control drama on yourself, attacking who you are) to families, to nations to global tendencies.

These are the types of Control dramas in a nutshell:

These above originally come from the Celestine Prophecy book.

They are a shortened version of the Archetypes. Also known as Archons

These are all SECURITY seeking devices that try to get energy because they don’t feel safe. There is a lot of info on them, just google “control dramas

There are many reasons this can happen, they are primal and emotional, irrational and instinctive.  They simply exist in us due to our Beastial nature and life on the planet earth. It’s not good or bad. Like when a Lion eats something.  We are no better or worse than each other for any of it.

I go into this in detail in my upcoming book “A Witch’s Bestiary

The difficult part, especially for anyone who has ever fallen victim to something terrible, completely innocently and indeed, RIGHTEOUSLY, trying to Change the person, or inflict punishment on them,  who did what you felt was wrong is not the correct course of action to take. ACCOUNTABILITY and AMENDS EDUCATION and REPARATIONS are what is in order. That is a true kind of justice, that can take care of problems without feeding the action and manipulation gods that created it to being with. LOCKING us in a prison that is a circle of monkey see monkey do.  In a way, when you inflict wounds on those that wound you, you have caught their virus and are letting it kill you too.  Restorative, not aggressive or violent vengeful justice especially not inflicted through the Police.

Please understand, this does not mean do nothing, and let everyone go, that is not what this is advocating.  and if someone tries to physically hurt you, please stop them. Do what you have to do.  Just don’t do it out of a sense that they deserve it, or even that they are “responsible” since they are only some weird clay pot that a god has taken over in that moment, you need to be like “damn dude, you are totally bacchus right now”. instead of hating on the person PERFORMING the character, the actor the ACTION.  You can’t hold an individual responsible for “VIOLENCE” any more than you can hold them responsible for peeing.  They are responsible for their BEHAVIOR and this is different.

They can pee into a toilet instead of on your leg. And that happens through learning potty training.  We all pretty much need to learn to potty train our emotions in order for the next stage of human evolution to occur and give us a broader degree of freedom and liberty for all humans.

We need ways to make people accountable and responsible for their character plays in much bigger ways now because punishment and puny laws are not doing the trick.

this must occur on a wide scale conscious level. Deep inside each individual.

When you begin to do spiritual practices like Nei Gong , my awareness was raised thought the agency of Kelvin Dewolfe, you start to see very clearly through them, as your conscious mind raises up in awareness.  Or sometimes you just grew up new someone who was nearly completely taken over by their behavior so you saw it very strikingly.

 

These can be seen throughout the behavior of nations against each other as well, and echo into all walks of life.

In my Tarot deck that I made,

White Witch Tarot

I made up a new kind of spread that uses a control drama in order to gain insight on the situation. With the cards representing the Protagonist, the Antagonist and the Resolution, it starts to place our awareness into these categorical archetypal displays of a Character, much like in a dramatic play.

If we can see how shakespearean the world really is,

https://ritualdiary.com/2015/06/

we can use this to help raise our awareness of it and prevent ourselves from getting sucked into playtime, playground Drama traps.

Elevate yourself into an understanding of these responses and don’t get angry when other people display them.  Be committed to sitting through it. WE are here forever with each other, might as well face these shenanigans now and quite just running away from everyone who has a character you don’t like gets in your face.  Help them and yourself through it by recognizing it and looking at what is laying underneath it.

Projection of influence

Imagine if every individual became completely responsible for their own energy, and could see when anyone exhibited this behavior, that they just had to reconnect to their energy source.  Like a baby whose umbilical cord has become twisted, many loose touch with their own innate ability to create energy, like the sun, and become vampires on each other due to a fear that they will die if they don’t get it from someone.

When you engage in an action of Manipulation, (and we all do, such is Human Nature, if that isn’t clear yet, it ain’t about you)

such as any of the above,

you may feel like you are in charge and even powerful.

In fact you just invited an Archon into you that is controlling you.

They have been around a long time. And you will not defeat them.

you must starve them, so they don’t eat you.

All Manipulators are only being MANIPULATED by the appetites (NEEDS) of the Archetypal force that is driving their choices when they are taken over by an Habitual behavior.

We all fall under the control of a slavish master when we engage in any DRAMA.

Look at any current political situation, for example and within it you will find these Characters driving the car.

As horrifying as it is, to think that we are all being possessed when we engage with a deep Emotional PRIMAL response behavior, its best to just rip the whole thing open so that we can see it and accept it already.

You don’t need to be shocked when someone does something, you need to see what is happening.

Who would Humans be, if they did not ever manipulate each other?  Can you even imagine?  If everyone made choices, not from a place of survival, but from a place of security?  Regardless of their outer circumstances?

Help everyone rise up through this, because even if you know about it, that isn’t enough, because you will come under the control drama of someone somewhere, sooner or later, wether directly or indirectly through your country you are living it that is run by one of the Archetypes.  Or many of them at the same time.

When we Practice divination techniques, such as the Tarot, Astrology, Runes or the I Ching we learn all about these characters and how everyone is rolling through the Pantheon as if there were a big gang bang going on deep inside of them of all these others occupying their Heart Space.  Choosing what actions to take.

Ironically the real meaning behind the story of Pinnochio addressed this, as it was written by a Freemason and goes over these truths in poetic detail.

Once we traverse through the Procession of characters, if we see them clearly enough, we can start to become ourselves.

Our real selves.

Our Golden selves.

This is what is called a Sovereign and Liberty, and it is the true destiny of humanity to reach a point where all are free from the bondage of the the archetypes, who are our ancestors and literally reside within our flesh and blood.

They form the Ring in heaven which the self that is our Sun keeps circling endlessly through.

Let’s all see through Humanity and raise it up on a spiral instead of the same old circle of Samsara we keep revolving in.

Time for a new story, that has never been told before.

Do something today that is not something you have ever done before, and maybe a different choice than has ever been made.

 

Do not let the grief of loss

Caused by the

Destruction of your

Self righteous Rage

be what awakens you

to the truth of Love

Punishment is taken through the wound

of endless circles.

 

This deeper understanding of human conflict is immensely important. When we gain insight into human conflict, we understand and resolve more than our day-to-day personal disagreements. We grasp the long-term secret of how to end conflicts of all kinds. Even those between larger groups of people.

The issue of Control Dramas goes all the way back to the root of existential struggles in humanity”

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